(Dec. 17 – Jan 17)
Though we made huge strides during the 5th month, it seems like the 6th month we took a HUMONGOUS step backwards. Let’s be honest, these two are tough! Definitely my hardest kids, and I was blessed to have them at the same time :) I told Pat that I hope they have twins, so they understand what they put us through. Pat instantly replied, “No you don’t! Then we have to help them and do it all over again!” Hmm…Good point.
Boys, just know you put us through the wringer!
This past month, the boys struggled whenever they weren’t being held, and by the middle of the month they were crying all the time, even while in my arms. And when they cry nonstop, a schedule becomes obsolete. And if you have twins, you know you need to be on a schedule! We all became super frustrated, poor Ledger craved attention and started acting out. He’s been a trooper! After six months, the lack of sleep catches up. My patience began to wear thin. I feel like there may not be an end in sight.
But on a more positive note, we made it half of a year. {Insert congratulatory applause here} Good thing they are pretty darn cute.
The Boys are currently…
Rolling over! – On Dec. 18th, Cannon rolled from his stomach to his back. The next morning, on the 19th, Cruiz rolled from his back to his stomach. They both rolled over 12 hours apart. Cannon continues to hate tummy time, so anytime I place him on his stomach he rolls over. He has yet to roll from his back to his stomach. Cruiz on the other hand rolls all across the room, but lately only rolls onto his stomach and then screams because he is stuck...
Eating solids – The pediatrician told me to start them on solids, so their first meal was peas, which Cruiz loved. In fact, every time I fed Cannon he growled, he was a little impatient. They tolerate green beans, but can both finish up their own jar of sweet potatoes with ease. They have never skipped a feeding and are big boys. I’m feeding them rice cereal almost every other feeding, or else they want to eat every two hours.
(I know this pic is posted above, but I had to post it again. Here they are sleeping in Grandpa Sullenger’s closet. Oh, the swaddle. Getting them ready to go down is a lot of work!)
Sleeping worse! - I was usually up between 3-6 times a night. After talking to a few other twin moms who have had kids in the NICU, we’ve wondered if the strict schedule makes them this way? My boys used to wake up on the dot to eat, and we’ve had one heck of a time getting them to stop the habit. They are still being swaddled, and need a binky.Laughing – They are super ticklish. They will squeal when tickled on their feet, and on their back between their shoulder blades, and tummys.
At the end of the month Pat said, “I know the pediatrician said the reflux should be gone, but they are acting just like they were while they had it.” So we decided to give them their meds again just to see if that would help, and guess what, after about three days the boys began calming down. I swear the horrible month ruined their sleeping habits, and we’re once again praying they will start improving in all aspects of life!
But even though its been a little rough, we sure do love these two. We’re lucky to have them.
Oh Ashley! I seriously don't know how you do it. A couple of my boys had bad reflux and it was exhausting- ident know how I would've coped with twins having it! They look soooooo old all of a sudden. They're the cutest boys. I wish I could come cuddle them and help out.
ReplyDeleteMy older two kids were amazing sleepers... My twins, who just turned one, were terrible!! The same thing happened at six months... They woke up once a night to eat then all of a sudden it was non stop. I finally had to stop swaddling and take away the binkis because they would wake up in the middle of the night and couldn't fall back to sleep. My older two never had that problem. And all the other twin moms told me their babies wouldn't wake each other up but mine always do. I wish I could put them in separate rooms!
ReplyDeleteYou are doing so great!! I love Pats comment about not wanting them to have twins! I totally sympathize with you, twin babies are tough. Sometimes, to get through it, I'd think 'what if I had triplets?' and I'd feel slightly better. :) Everyone told me it gets better at the year mark . Mine are Ledgers age now and they are still work but at least now they are SUPER fun and that's been a game changer for me.
ReplyDeleteThey aren't just "pretty darn cute"! They are SUPER darn cute!!! I love reading your updates!!!
ReplyDeleteReflux is rough. I can't imagine having to deal with it with TWO! Just FYI, my oldest was done with reflux by 6 months, but developed a milk allergy late in the game, so her fussy nature was because she was allergic to the formula. Once we changed her to soy formula, she was a MUCH happier camper. My second had the most severe reflux a baby can have. I had to religiously give her the reflux meds until she was 9 months. Sometimes it takes a little longer, and sometimes the Lord throws us a curve ball like a milk allergy. LOL Hang in there mamma. Its okay to lose your temper or have your patience wear thin, life happens. Relish the small victories (like yelling one less time than you did the day before.) Every mamma has those moments.
ReplyDeleteI had to laugh about the comment about the boys not having twins. As a teenager I told one of mine that I hope she would have two just like her. Shazammm
ReplyDeleteI couldn't stop the reflux meds until my boys were upright most of the time... close to a year. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteI can't imagine having 2 reflux babies! One was hard enough. My son's reflux resurfaced at 9 months after being off meds for 2 months. He was on them until he was 15 months (I was too afraid to try again before then!) And even now at almost 23 months he still has occasional issues with it. It gets better but don't ditch the medicine again until you're ready, probably at least 6 more months from how bad it sounds. At least they're absolutely adorable!
ReplyDeleteGreat job. It's hard to understand unless you're the parent of multiples. Hang in there. My twin boys are 4mo and still getting up twice and I can't imagine how tired you must be. Having an older sibling in the mix also adds to exhaustion. Hang in there!
ReplyDeleteI cannot believe how much they look like Preslee! :-)
ReplyDeleteSo adorable.
ReplyDeleteI've read your blog for over a year now but never commented:) I feel for you! I never had twins, but my fourth baby boy, had complications and was in the nicu for a while. As grateful I was for the life saving things that happened in the nicu, the schedule they had chase on, I feel like cause them to wake more than my other babies... And all the poking and extra sad things a nicu baby goes through, I wonder if it caused a little anxiety and panic in chase..... It's all me just wondering:) but my baby had awful reflux..... And screamed.... And then screamed more than I thought he could. And then screamed more;) it really wasn't much fun at all. Now times that by 2... I don't know that I'd have made it out alive!!! So good for you! Your almost there!!!! I took chase off Prevacid at 6 months.... Went back on it after a week of awfulness!!! He is now 10 months and he is off completely again.... And actually happy!!!! You are so awesome! It's hard work. And I'm sure your arms are hurting! Mine do with one! And you can't make yourself feel bad.... If they cry, even when being held.... I just couldn't do it! I'd lay him somewhere safe, and let him do his thing:) at least I was productive while he cried. Cause he cried no matter what! But he is now! Soooo good. Poor things, they must be feeling a lot of tummy pain, cause once that reflux is gone they can be who they are!!!
ReplyDeleteI was just wondering the same thing about the NICU.. My baby boy was in the NICU for a month, now at 4.5 months he still gets up ON.THE.DOT. same schedule he did in the hospital. I am happy to feed him in the night because he is still so small.. It is just strange how I CANNOT break the schedule or change it at all.. He also has to have swaddled arms and a binki! .. I don't know how you do 2 but I give you praise! They are darling!
ReplyDeleteDarling boys! That acid reflux is rough! Mine was a good 9+ months before she grew out of it--I honestly couldn't imagine doing that with two babies. The crying is so wearing. Thank goodness for those meds! I hope with that under control they (and you!) can get more sleep!
ReplyDeleteMy son was on zantac starting at 2 weeks old, and at 4 months we added prevacid. He was on both meds unitl he was 15 months old...if your pedi doesn't seem on board with reflux meds I would highly recommend seeing a pedi GI ; ) The misery, sleep deprivation and constant crying is not colic at 6 months old and sticking to a schedule/routine is like you said impossible when they are so uncomfortable...Hugs & prayers, you are amazing for doing all you do and balancing 3 all at once! ; )
ReplyDeleteTwin schedules are a must! I hate when they get off!. My twin boys where my easiest. Their older sister was a nightmare! Hang in there it will all work out. Mine will be 6 next week. All your kids are sure adorable! I found the hardest age was about 2 when they discovered when you couldn't chase them both at once and so they would head in different directions. Do you have family close who can help?
ReplyDeleteHave you tried the chiropractor? My 2 1/1 month old has acid reflux and I kept hearing about people taking their babies to the chiro and thought it was worth a try. It really did help! He is spitting up much less and seems to be happier. He never seems to be bothered by it anymore. My husband and I were a little nervous about what it would be like, but he was so soft and gentle with him. They push so softly and it didn't seem to bother him at all when he was adjusting him. Maybe it's worth a try? Good luck!! I feel exhausted most days with just one and can't imagine doing it with 2! You're a great mommy! :)
ReplyDeleteMy daughter was on a very, very high dose of reflux meds until over age 2. She had a very weaker sphincter at the top of her stomach and her esophagus would get ulcerated at any reduction in meds dosage :( Go with your intuition and if you think reflux may be impacting on them, give them the meds.
ReplyDeleteNon twin and non preemie mom, but my oldest kid was on 2 different medicines until he was 1.5? I had to fight for it for him as a baby. That boy would scream all hours of the day and night. I hated feeding him it was so bad! He got put back on it at age 5. At age, 12, he's STILL on it. My daughter was on it at 1 week until she was 2. She's good without it.
ReplyDeleteOh my they are adorable! I hope it eases up and they get back on a better schedule-that makes life much more "doable".
ReplyDeleteHi Ashley, I just want to say that I admire your parenting style and I think you guys are great. *Love* how you keep it real. We have four kids, including two little ones under 2 who are kind of like twins (born just four months apart -- one is adopted and one is biological). They have certainly kept us on our toes, and it has been the most exhausting, frustrating yet awesome, wouldn't-trade-it-for-the-world experience. Like us, you have the perspective of older kids to remind you of how quickly it all goes by. Keep blogging! Sending you sleep vibes from Texas. :)
ReplyDeleteThe twins are so dang CUTE! they look so inocent I don't think they could be naughty;) colicy babies are so hard my first son was. I remember feeling so guilty thinking I'm not so sure I like this parenting thing. I can only image how hard two little unhappy guys would be.Hang in there I hope it continues to get easier. I'm sure they will have many fun times together causing their parents stress as they grow up.Sure enjoy reading your blog and learning from your testimony.Sending love from Riverton, Utah
ReplyDeleteI just wanted to say they are beautiful boys. Wishing you luck getting back on a schedule.
ReplyDeleteHello from Arkansas! As a fellow twin momma blogger I love reading your updates and knowing what I can expect in a couple months as mine are 4 months old now. We've had a rough month as well! Looking forward to hearing what the next month brings for you!
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My daughter was awful with her reflux! She was on meds three times a day until she was 13 months! And she had colic I can't imagine two!! Good luck!
ReplyDeleteWow, so cute twin babies!
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