It’s no secret that Ledger has had a rough past few months. Yes, I know, it only gets worse when they hit two…so I’ve been told, but lately, we’ve seemed to have a little monster on our hands.
Last week I reached 14 weeks, and Voilà, just like that, I became a whole new person. I quit throwing up, and have only taken Zofran (meds for nausea) a couple of times. I’m up off the couch, cleaning like a madwoman, attempting to exercise, cooking, and back on the floor playing with Ledger. All the while Ledger is suffering from TV withdrawals…because that’s all we did for the past couple of months. But as my energy is returning, so is my happy little boy. Just like that, the tantrums are down to a bare minimum, and I realize how hard the past few months have not only been on Patrick and I, but on Ledger. This past week, I’ve received more hugs and kisses from my little guy than I have in ages. I think it’s safe to say he’s missed his Momma.
I realized Pat noticed the difference in Ledger as well, because just today I received this text from him.
“I’m worried about Ledge, I just don’t want him to get ignored or forgotten about during this whole process of twins and everything else.”
Sledgehammer, just know we love you more than anything. I know that our future will only get crazier from here on out, but never forget that your dad and I are crazy about you. So here’s to an amazing next few months, I’m going to be down on the floor playing choo choo trains, cars, and whatever else you want until I’m just too big to move.
I remember when I brought my second baby home and I felt like I was not able to give my first as much attention, and I was possibly suffering from a little "baby blues", but I remember just crying and feeling like I ruined my oldest child's life by bringing home another baby. Silly, I know! We quickly figured out the balance and adjusted to new schedules and play times and all that goes with having multiple children in the house. Go easy on yourself. You may or may not feel guilt when you bring those babies home, and Ledger may or may not act out. It's all normal and you will get into a new rhythm and everything will fall into place. I just wish someone had told me to relax and take a breath! You and your family are always in my prayers!
ReplyDeleteHe is so cute. Love those pictures. I know you'll enjoy your time with Ledger and everything will work out with the twins as well!
ReplyDeletePersonally 2 is my favorite age, they talk a ton and it is so cute and they are big but yet still small. Yes there are some major temper tantrums, but I think those hit the worst at three! My advice; enjoy two its three you need to be scared of!
ReplyDeleteHe's such a cutie! So glad you're feeling better. Enjoy playing with Ledger while you still can, I'm sure he's missed his momma and his world will get turned upside down pretty quickly. Try to enjoy it as much as you can now!
ReplyDeleteLedge has little boy hair now!!! He is getting big fast! Things are going to change but I have no doubt you and Pat will make the adjustment good for Ledger. Think about all the fun things he will get to do that the babies will be too small for. He'll love being the big man on campus!
ReplyDeleteHey just wanted to let you know I had my twins when my oldest son was two. I was worried about the same things as you guys but truely it was awesome! My oldest absolutely loved the babies and he didn't really feel like he was forgotten. I think that if my oldest would of been older I think it might of been different. My oldest is now 7 and the twins are five and they all get along so well! It will be okay :)
ReplyDeleteI am so glad you are feeling better! He is getting so big!! Such cute pictures!
ReplyDeleteI can relate entirely. I am no longer pregnant, but when I was pregnant I did not feel well at all and my child was 9 months old. He definately did not get the abundance of attention that he was used to for those first nine months. He is now three and he acts out terribly when he does not feel that he is getting enough attention. Two is a hard age with tantrums, but fun because they learn so much, start talking and their little personalities truly blossom. I have noticed that bad attention is better than none at all. The days that I find time to give him a little extra attention have him more loving and all around in a better mood. I am still trying to balance attention between my three year old and 21 month old. Nap time for my younger has seemed to be the best source of one on one time for me and my eldest. I think the most important thing as a parent is that we do our best and I think our children can see that.
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ReplyDeleteI met you for a quick min at BYBC and I wanted to throw my opinion in for you. I had my twins when my son was only two. One of my biggest fears when having my girls was that I was ruining his life. I just wanted to tell you that my son is now 10 and that couldn't be further from the truth. Those first years were hard but my Boy learned to be more independent, kind and was given what I now see one of his greatest gifts-- his sisters. At ten his is a wonderful helper, kind hearted and patient. I believe he learned this during those years! Oh and my twins were a very high risk pregnancy and I had to leave him every day till delivery and then at birth they were in the NICU for a month again I left him daily. He cried and I cried over it. Yet he has not memory of any of that. He only talks about the scenes of happiness in our albums and the fun things he does with those sisters! My twins have been our greatest blessing, for all of us! I, too, was so sick-- kids are resilient!
wow he's such a little man now! so handsome! enjoy these months with him before the twins come. he will be a great big brother! and the third year is definitely harder than the second. terrible threes not twos!!
ReplyDeleteI'm SO glad that you are feeling much better. I was so worried about Jalen and having other kids after having Noah because he took up so much of our time and attention, but we made sure we spent special times with the boys and always let them know that we loved them and they meant as much to as as Noah, even if Noah took up a lot of our time. I'm sure Ledger will be fine because you are already aware of how much time the twins will take up, and will make sure Ledger knows how much you love and care for him despite some crazy days :)
ReplyDeletewe just went through this at our house. i get very sick at the end of pregnancy and i have a 5 year old, 4 year old, and a 2 year old. it was a blessing to have them even though i couldn't be the mom i wanted to be- they prayed for me and took care of me at a time when i couldn't even take care of myself. now i am holding my 2 week old baby and we are all doing well and loving the time that we have to just enjoy each other. when i would cry and say, i am the worst mother i was reminded that kids are so strong and will be grateful to have this baby no matter the sacrifice. they are all stronger for what they had to go through and we are all loving our new baby and our new adventure in life! you will all be stronger and closer! good luck!
ReplyDeleteDon't look at it as taking away from Ledger. You are GIVING him siblings who will love him for the rest of his life. I come from a large family and I can't conceive of being an only child. Just like everything, you will find the right balance.
ReplyDeleteps I'm glad someone else confesses to letting her kid watch too much tv. I did too during a period of time and felt so guilty. She's in grad school but she can still recite most of 101 Dalmations by heart. (gulp)
Glad you are feeling better & are now able to move & do things. Before long you will be finding out what the little ones will be how exciting. I cannot wait to find out... Looks like little man loves you tons glad things are going back to normal :)
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