I often wonder "Why?"
Why us?
Why them?
Why do some go through life experiencing very little death? While others find themselves experiencing it very early in life. Its now a different kind of "why" then it used to be. It's more of what lessons will be learned? Will I learn all that I need to?
My brain always seems to think this way when I hear of someone passing away.
Last week, Megan, a friend from High School lost her husband to Cancer.
A few months back Megan was married to a strong healthy 24 year old. Then last Saturday, she was attending her husband's funeral. My heart hurts for her, it literally aches for her.
Why us?
Why them?
Why do some go through life experiencing very little death? While others find themselves experiencing it very early in life. Its now a different kind of "why" then it used to be. It's more of what lessons will be learned? Will I learn all that I need to?
My brain always seems to think this way when I hear of someone passing away.
Last week, Megan, a friend from High School lost her husband to Cancer.
A few months back Megan was married to a strong healthy 24 year old. Then last Saturday, she was attending her husband's funeral. My heart hurts for her, it literally aches for her.
"Mourning is one of the purest expressions of deep love."
-Russel M Nelson
We love you Megan.
Sending lots of love and prayers to the Stucki family in their time of need.
I grew up with Josh, he was such a fun kind person. My heart and the hearts of so many are aching for Megan, the pain she must be feeling is unimaginable. Megan's dad shared a quote that really hit "To take the pain out of death, you would have to take the love out of life" - Elder Maxwell . Megan & Josh sure knew how to love, and they made the most of their time together. I pray Megan has the strength she needs to learn to love her new life.
ReplyDeleteI've been following Megan's blog for awhile and have really been touched by them. I live in the same area that Josh is from and I can't even express how much Josh and Megan both have touched so many people around here. Megan is such a shining example to us all and Josh too. We will continue to keep Megan in our prayers!
ReplyDeleteOH my heart is breaking for her!! I dont even know Megan, But I have been Faithfully following her blog. And just the other day I had such worry for her and her husband and their family. I now know why. She has been in my prayers ever since you shared her story.
ReplyDeleteOh, I didn't know. I'd been reading Megan's blog and worried each time there was a gap between posts. Praying for her.
ReplyDeleteive been following megans blog for a while and i am so saddened to hear the news about her husband they were a beautiful couple
ReplyDeleteThis is a comment to your last post. I have been reading your blog for awhile now and my heart aches for you. I have never and hope to never experience what you have. However I want you to know that I have learned so much from you. I am learning to love the "messes" and "noise" my kids make. I am learning to cherish rocking my baby in the middle of the night instead of aching to go back to my own bed. The thought is always in my mind, "what if this is the last time I get to see them, or do this with them" I am a much better person and mother because of you. Thank you for that
ReplyDeleteOh my gracious....I saved the link to her blog and I will read it this evening. My heart goes out to them.
ReplyDeleteI just read all of her entires...crying the whole time while looking at all of their pictures...I can't imagine:'(
ReplyDeleteMy prayers and thoughts are with the Stucki family as well. What a heartache for you young people who have to deal with such tremendous loss. I can tell you from experience, even if you spend a lifetime (33 years) with someone and they leave you for a much better place in heaven, it doesn't get any easier. Whether your little Preslee was a baby or 18 years old or 80 years old, you would still mourn her loss and miss her more than anything. I heard a saying once that tears, sadness, loss, heartache are the price we pay for loving someone. But I would not want it any other way - I would never stop loving someone just to spare myself of heartache. I'm sure you feel the same way about Preslee. I know the Savior is mindful of our trials and He is always there to help us and to heal us. The why's are hard; the what if's are even harder. I had to make a concious decision not to play those games because I knew I could not win them. So....why do these things happen? You are right - whatever happens to us, even if it does not make sense at the time, will help us grow as a person, help us learn to be more humble, help us learn to be more accepting, more charitable, more giving, less angry, less harsh.....I think you have learned many of those lessons. I don't know you but I know how much you have helped many of us with your wise words, your giving back to PCMC, and just the simple sharing of your story and your life has inspired many. My heart is still broken for my losses but I have decided that this year is the year to become happier and to live my life rather than just get through it. You are a wonderful person Ashley and I hope you know how many of us think about you on a regular basis. Thank you.
ReplyDeletePat and Ashley, I have followed your blog from the very beginning, crying and celebrating with you. Thank you so much for allowing us to be a small part in your life and sharing other inspirational life stories. I hope and pray that through all of this you will see that you are not alone in this life and our Heavenly Father is aware of each and every one of us. We too have had a family tragedy this last year and over and over again I can't help but feel the tender mercies he sends our way. With love!
ReplyDeletekeeping her and her family in my prayers- what a rough thing to have to deal with.
ReplyDeleteI wanted to share this with you- this is a guy from my hometown in WA- and his talk is amazing. I was so touched by his testimony. though I would share. :)
http://byutv.org/watch/event/c4640ed7-2175-445a-9e63-b0e1a1d2c9f2
Ashley - Thank you for sharing Megan's blog.
ReplyDeleteI just read the entire blog and am so sad for her. I am also very happy for her. You can tell from ALL of her posts, they had found true love. True love is hard to find sometimes. She and Josh had something at such a young age that some people search a lifetime for.
My heart also aches A LOT for Megan.
Megan - may you remember all of the wonderful moments and things you and Josh share. HUGS!
I love that quote. Mourning is the purest expressions of love. . . . I guess we must love a lot eh? I've never heard it before. Bless her sweet family. So very sad. :(
ReplyDeleteWHAT :( i am sooo heartbroken
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